Do you need a "Save-Cation?"
Trouble in relationship paradise? Couples have endless support from mediating friends, family and licensed professionals but some times the best solution is taking a break—together. The “save-cation,” when a couple in a rocky relationship travels somewhere together to reignite that initial fire, has been helping loving partners restore their relationship for decades. Here’s everything you can expect with this “Hail Mary honeymoon” and determine if it’s right for you.
It’s not cheap, but you may save money
With a save-cation, couples spend money on round-trip flights, hotels and any activities that help strengthen their relationship. This can cost a couple thousands of dollars but many argue so do couples therapy and divorce papers, which is often more expensive.Not only does a save-cation offer couples an alternative therapy, it gives them plenty to look forward to (both the hope of saving a relationship and the joy of a vacation). With a save-cation, couples are not “running away” from a problem; they’re banding together to solve it.
Expect a whole lotta romance
A save-cation will generally take place in beautiful destinations known for romance, like the Caribbean, Paris, Maldives and Costa Rica. The whole point is for couples to rekindle that fire that made them fall in love in the first place, and a beautiful place is the perfect catalyst. It can truly bring out the romantic side of couples, especially with candle-lit dinners on the beach, couple-friendly activities like rock climbing, painting or snorkeling and leisurely moments like stargazing.
You see things a whole other way
Remember that time you went to Mexico with your family and couldn’t believe your brother was emotional over dolphins? Or that time you took a road trip with your girlfriends and realized they were more high-maintenance than you thought? Travel helps you further understand someone’s traits, even if you thought you always knew. Travel can also bring major insight into someone’s character, especially in unfamiliar settings. For couples, this helps them discover deeper traits about their partner (which could be the root of problems) and allows them to talk about it.
Get ready for some transformations
Travel inspires and helps people become better versions of themselves, which is why it’s perfect for saving relationships. When couples travel, they not only learn a lot about themselves but they learn together and strive to take what they learned back home. Experiencing a different culture can open your eyes to new ways of seeing things, and it encourages conversations, which can eventually bring the relationship into the spotlight. Vacations are “life-changing” experiences for a reason!
You are essentially forced to work out your problems—so enjoy it
Let’s be honest. You spent a lot of money on your save-cation… why let it go to waste? Most couples have no choice but to spend time together on a trip anyway, so it’s the perfect place to confront issues you’re avoiding back home. Don’t be afraid. There’s no better opportunity to speak about your relationship, grow closer and spend time you would have used to avoid each other back home.